A friend comes up to you and asks, “What do you think of my significant other?” And then you offer, hopefully, your honest advice. Advice that they ignore for the worse.
This is the point where they expect you to say “I told you so,” but this is the point where I just wonder why my friend even bothered to ask.
I’m not quite sure who I beat up more when it comes to situation like this. Me or my friend. I get upset with myself for not having pressed my point, for not making my friend see what I saw. After all, friends don’t let friends get hurt, not if they can help it. Sure, I had warned her, but it sure didn’t feel like much after find about their heartbreak.
Then there is also the fact that they didn’t heed my advice. Not just my advice, but others’ as well. And when I think like that I wonder if I did my share. I had given my friend the advice they asked for and it was really up to them if they took it or not, right?
Bah hum bug!
It is just so frustrating. Sometimes I just want to scream at my friend to listen. After all these years and all advice on past boyfriends and never listening… you would think that they would listen at least once! Or not ask at all.
The worst of the matter is that I can expect this to happen again.
gem2niki
/ April 21, 2010you would think they would have a guilty conscience under their mind….but chose to ignore it until they see what you see?
Patji
/ April 21, 2010Exactly, but it doesn’t make it any less difficult to know that people would hurt themselves like this continuously. Especially when it could be resolved by taking the advice they were given upon their request.
Jenny
/ April 21, 2010As someone who’s been on both ends of the situation, your spot is a difficult one to be in. If you say too much, you get accused of not being supportive of being mean. If you don’t say enough, you’re letting your friend get hurt. I was with a guy who was a total jerkwad, and now that I look back, I wish my friends had been tougher on me, as in, give me an ultimatum of some sort. It would’ve been hella annoying then, but it would’ve saved me a lot of heartbreaks and tears later on.